There are things you should do and things you shouldn’t do. Since relationships are what actually bring two people together either from different race or different sex…whichever, relationships of whatever kind is what rings these people together and establish them both together in a lovely and peaceful harmony. Counsellor Mr. Bankole Edris ones made a report about most of the causes of relationship disharmony which are usually in most cases the tiniest things which are never s respected.
Since the beginning of life, there had always been reasons for people to have different points of views which would in turn lead to some casual annoyance between both couples and these could be tackled by gently handling the situation with a strong and brave heart which would In turn prove the man to be matured enough to lead the relationship.
According to Mr. Edris, he said in most cases of the disputes which he had solved, the man being the egomaniac usually have the greatest bunch of the errors that leads to the disputes. Many of these cases which are then caused by the man is majorly based on lack of respect and some pride which would be interpreted to high self esteem by the man which is actually a very wrong though and believe. According to him, he also stated that men are mostly the cause of many break up in relationship based on interviews conducted on 50 couples he had decided to start the exercise with after he had been noticing this for a very long time.
This should at least make the sense since we all want a way of maintaining our relationship lives on the long run. Because of the mediocrity of many, the approach is usually seen as a way of scooping too low into a relationship and this in turn makes the two wrongs never to come about a right. As this continued, we still ask ourselves if we really can make things work out in our relationship lives especially those seeking a real and long term relationship which might lead to marriage. Well taking into consideration some realities and facts would actually help set the pace clearer and cover up the bridge and ego of most men who believed that seeking too many remedies to their broken or breaking relationships is a waste of time.
Is it true? Is it not? That’s not the question. The main question to be asked all the time should be “How?” The how question can then be preceded by words like How…do I make amendments?” “How do I make sure she is settled with me?” “How do I know we are both on the right path?” All these are the questions that How can be made to work in for and this is actually a jackpot in a successful relationship because when the reason for the HOW is gotten, tackling the problem would be easy. Well then, lets go down to the ten things you do that would make her to likely gilt you!
10. Because you always complain:
When you complain always, you are creating a distance between yourself and your woman. Complaints actually meant that you are not okay probably with what she is doing or whatever she does. Because of this attitude, you are hurting your chance of keeping a serious relationship on the longer run. Being a man, there are some characteristics that you need to possess that qualifies you being the header of the house. Now, where the relationship stands in complaints is a farther distance both physically and emotionally. Try making some amendments to such characteristics before you actually regret it.
9. Because You’re lazy:
Being lazy is a very dangerous disease. Being a man that controls the affairs of the home demands some hardworking spirit which would actually motivate the companion which the woman is. Now, being the lazy one would only hurt the chance of getting this realised. Well, if you don’t understand what type of laziness im talking about right here, then you’ve gotta read closer…if you don’t do your job as a man. You are then lazy. Apart from putting some food on the table with extra pocket change, that enough isn’t enough. In this sense, enough is never enough. You’ve gotta therefore keep on with this practise on the long run for as long as you want the relationship to survive.
8.Because you are Too Proud:
Pride is said to be the beginning of the fall of a man. Great people fall because they are too proud. Well, if you believing you are scooping too low when trying to please your woman then you are getting it very wrong here because you asked her out in the first place which made you the coward actually who is running away from his responsibilities. But in reality, a woman might wanna seek her way out of the relationship and this would eventually hurt your chance of ever establishing a very long relationship since that act would likely affect you again in another relationship.
7. Because you are too Jealous:
Being jealous might have its advantages but the “TOO!” which I included at the front had turned it to a very bac and evil act which can be very devilish in many situations. This is true because being over jealous of the way people talk to your woman might turn things around against her. What I meant is that you would think you are trying not to allow things(Others) to touch your woman but you are actually posing some security and physical violence to those trying to care for your beautiful woman and this would be very sad and bad for her so she would most likely leave you alone and try someone else.
6. Because you hit her a lot:
Its very bad and in fact a criminal offence in many countries to hit a woman for what so ever reason. Being a weaker personality with weaker ability to defend herself would make her subjected to your physical violence upon her. Well then, women are not the dull or dumb type and believe me, she would seek the best guy who doesn’t do such to her but treats her like a queen which she is.
5. Because you never liked her family:
Some men are found of this bad character. Dating someone but hating her family. They usually think they do not hate her family but “Dislike!” which is a bigger thing. Now, we are faced with serious matter which would hurt your chance of getting her. Believe me, family comes first and that’s the way its always being. Some men on the contrary would want the woman to love their own family but not loving her own family enough or at all. This must e changed and the correction of such attitude would make her dance to your tune and you guys would just be like you ones were.
4. Because you are boring:
Women naturally are lively people. To keep one to your heart, you need to learn to have a very jovial heart because that alone would be the means of her finding a warmer environment that is okay for her to sleep in. What am saying in essence is that you need a warmer heart. A very wider space that can contain her laughter so that she would just be happy with you. Being happy doesn’t come when you are too serious with everything. Try to be jovial and not be serious at all cost. That would make you very very boring.
3. Because you aint planning big:
She would always wanna be with you when she notices that you are a big thinker ad big planner. The future is a destination where all head towards. Now, when a woman sees the big picture In your eyes, she would be so courageous enough to fit herself in to your future. This means that thinking like a kid who only wanna grow old and buy a bicycle would actually make her seek a better and ambitious guy that seek something like….ummh….a Linear ship….like Titanic. Lol!
2. Because you are a drug abuser:
Since she is a responsible woman who has some responsible characteristics, she wouldn’t wanna ever date a drug abuser. When initially she met you, you comported yourself pretending to have never seen a mere cigarette and even refused drinking the alcoholic wine on the table. Well, its time to maintain that status if you are seeking to make the relationship a stable and long lasting one. Believe it or not, the day she finds out might be disastrous to her heart and your relationship with her.
1 Because you cheat:
You might be thinking smart now. Going out with other ladies all around the town and this is what you are quiet good at. When you cover your ass, you are actually destroying your true relationship in the sense that each time you repeat your errors, your trust for her declines and although hers is static for you and believe me dude, she would get you someday if not sooner. And when she gets you, she would leave you ad this would hurt you on the long run.